We’ve talked before about how important intimacy and cunnilingus is for sexual and penile health so here are 6 tips to make you a master of cunnilingus.
1.Keep your tongue loose
You should never attempt sudden penetration with a women, sex always requires a tad of delicacy and lustful persuasion. This is most important when using your mouth, as the tongue is most pleasurable when it’s used for what it’s good for, navigating your meal. Your goal is to ease the tongue around the small crevices and more sensitive parts of the vagina, you don’t need to go straight for the clitoris as your breath can be a entirely different sensation on its own, trace the labia majora before the minor using your face as your tool of pleasure, you can use your nose to nudge the skin and lips to suck and during more heated moments grazing with your teeth can be highly effective as well. The key is the build up and to climax or to the delay, depending on your preference.
Performing a sexually selfless act like cunnilingus or fellatio requires mental and emotional prowess and one should be mindful in it’s execution, that is to say pay attention to how the person you are pleasing reacts and modify your approach when necessary. For starters the most important understanding is how to use your hands, as your not penetrating and instead pleasing you must use your hands in a way that pleases those sensitive untouched areas of your partner, while moving your hands to more comfortable and precise positions you should be acquainting yourself to the task in front of you: know that she’s watching you and use that performance value to excite her, arch your back and put your body where she can see her favorite parts, sometimes it’s nice to tug yourself while leisurely sipping from her vagina to show her what’s to come ( pun intended).
3. A to Z isn’t all that you need
The typical method most of us men learn is to draw the alphabet with the tip of your tongue, but I know personally I took that to heart with my first few attempts at cunnilingus. As I got more experience with face riding and the like I learned to eat more like it’s a pie eating contest and less like gerbil drinking water. The alphabet metaphor as I’ve come to understand is more of a reference to the variation and broad strokes, but you should be more attentive and look for the best places to suck, nibble, and tease your lover. Pay attention to her body and be attentive by starting slow and building your pace to the rate of her sensitivity and you’ll learn how to slow it down and tease her or rush her to an orgasm. The A to Z rule can easily be erased by using the advice under ‘Focus’, you have to react appropriately to her reactions and give her a display that will encourage the reaction that you want, this requires full awareness of your hands, motions of tongue, visual or audible cue; so it can greatly increase your pussy eating game if you can really get excited and invested in the opportunity then showing her with moaning and deep gazes.
4. Erogenous zones
This tip isn’t specifically just for eating out your lover but is especially important in this scenario, as you will be in the most private areas of your lovers body where few people get to touch. The inner thighs are great for light tickling and teasing with fingernails or teeth (eye contact is necessary with teeth so you can gauge the pain value and adjust) the outer thighs are better for pulling closer, anchoring and firm but not tight squeezing. It can be especially enticing to bring in the feet using your body to put pressure onto hers as if you were penetrating her with your face, and using your shoulders similar to your hips, this position makes a great example of checking the limitations of your hands and exploring her body as you perform on her. I think breast play can be especially appreciated as its unexpected and forces you to wrap your arms around her in a very intimate way.
5. Toy play
Though toy play is not essential to getting a woman off alongside oral sex it is often necessary after a long day of work or a time constraint of any sort, the great thing if it’s a long term lover though is your get to familiarize yourself with her toy box! When I was younger this was almost terrifying to me due to the common homophobia and intimidated by the idea of competition with a toy, this barrier can be difficult but necessary to grow more intimate with your lover and bring some extra fire to the bedroom. So get used to her collection and encourage her to let you use some on her, if you need to break the ice in the heat of the moment pull out something small that’s used for clitoral stimulation (just don’t over use it and make her numb) and get exploratory by paying attention to erogenous zones, including but not limited to the anus. If your all too nervous to use her veiny dildo though start off with a finger or two and use her favorite lube, but if she is wet enough the best way is to gently tease her open with the tip of your finger while also gradually lubricating your finger with her bodily liquids.
6. Let’s play in the mud
I couldn’t resist the title, but don’t turn away now your already head first and hopefully she’s clamping your head down with her thighs! If you have never talked about anal play with your lover it’s never too late, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you if you find it too nasty turn away now with the information above but if its a question never talked about maybe she’s hiding a fantasy or two that can make it much hotter in your bedroom. In my experience a little spreading of the anus can really make a woman climax hard and can sometimes be the catalyst for a pleasant squirt from her. Now if you have 0 experience at all with anal play I suggest your find a toy to use and test the waters with her in dialogue, and start of by pleasuring her anus unexpectedly by pressing against the sphincter with your fingerprint or even the skin between the vagina and the anus, tongue play cant be especially exciting in this way but that requires special preparation and you may end up embarrassing her if she didn’t clean up before hand. Now in stretching the anus you have to be ridiculously patient, anal play really does require delicacy and time, do not, absolutely DO NOT rush your lover to take more than they can handle. You should not hesitate to cease until later, as it can take time and any trauma caused can increase the likelihood of a host of issues. Above all I can say if you keep trying and it hurts your lover you should attempt the same act (toy or amount of fingers whatever causes the discomfort) on yourself before continuing your initiation of the act.
Please let us know if you learned anything useful or any tips or tricks for other readers to pick up from your end, because it requires effort to rise every day, and we all have an end goal after all.